Coach Lori Park

"An Honest Look  At REALITY"

Sometimes holiday gatherings can be challenging.  When they are, we need to take an honest look at what's going on.

Maybe you find that others don't have the same beliefs or opinions that you do.                    NEWSFLASH: They aren't suppose to!!!

Think about your Thanksgiving table, if every dish was seasoned the exact same way, the meal would be dull and boring.  But as it is, some dishes are delightful to your personal taste, while others you can take or leave....HOWEVER all the dishes bring value to the meal.

So it is with the people around the table.  Each person brings an unique flavor to the gathering. Since we have no control over others, we have only our-self to look at.  Are we bringing something that blends with the occasion, or something sour and off putting?

This is my personal way to prepare myself for theses...

We are in the "Harvest Season".  Many people enjoy a nice bottle of wine at their Thanksgiving table.

What makes good wine?  Some might say the particular grape, some may say the blending of grapes. Others might say the region the grape is grown.  There are some that say the temperature, the sun, or the shade.  Still others argue the time the grapes are picked from the vine.  And in truth, all of these answers are correct.

There are so many factors that go into the perfect time to harvest the grape, so that the wine can blend its natural flavor, for a smooth taste that enhances the dining experience.

No two years are exactly the same.  Some years have more rain than others.  Some years experience varying temperatures, and at different times during the season.  The time to harvest, becomes an custom evaluation each year, throughout different regions.

The same thing is true for you.  You bring a special enhancement of your gifts and...

As the warmth of summer becomes a distant memory, and the crisp air of autumn is present, we are aware we're moving into a new season.

The changing seasons offers new colors in our landscape, and the sound of crunching leaves under our feet.  Our seasons are cyclical, each taking turn to offer its gifts to all those wise enough to learn and grow from the experience of the season.

The wisdom autumn offers is a time of transition and reflection.  This is a time to prepare for a quiet look inwards to gain the deep understanding that things do change, and it's OK as we cycle through our life.  Another word for gaining through change is "growth".

Many people are afraid of change, and try their hardest to prevent it from happening.  But you wouldn't prevent your children from changing as they grow from their experiences....would you?  It isn't always easy to watch your child go through some of the physical and emotional changes, but at the same time you know,...

MANAGING FEAR

The Buddha said:  The secret to Enlightenment is the eradication of fear.

In Sufism: they believe God is on one side of the veil and we're on the other, and our life is the struggle against the veil....and the veil is our fear.

Breaking fear down scientifically:  FEAR is an emotional reaction to a future event, that may or may not happen....with you focused on a negative outcome.

Fear depends on a negative outcome.  It depends on YOU believing in a negative outcome.

When you shift your focus from negative to positive...YOU create a whole different experience.

Perhaps this is why the good book told us 365 times to, FEAR NOT.

Setbacks are only temporary.  Many times, growth is attainable only through those temporary setbacks.  As it affords us time to pause and ponder what happened; think through a respectful solution; and put together a well thought-out plan to move forward.

Hope is the eternal flame that burns within each of us.

Don't forget the power of the positivity you bring to this world!!  Your talents or gifts might be different or unconventional, but it's precisely the uniqueness that is entrusted to you, to bring forth into this crazy world at this time.

Embrace your purpose.

The world is inviting you to step out of your comfort zone and into a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.  This is about the very essence of who you are; the energy you bring to every moment.

You are part of the community for change!

First of all....What is the meaning of a secret weapon?

"Something or someone that no one knows about, and that will give you an advantage over your competitors or enemies."

You might argue that everyone knows about LOVE, so how can that be a secret weapon.  You're right, AND THAT'S what makes it even more powerful.

Yes, we know about LOVE, but few realize there are actually invisible frequencies that accompanies all emotions.

When someone is feeling an angry emotion, and another person is feeling a loving emotion; whichever person is feeling their emotion stronger, they will actually neutralize the other person's emotion.

So next time you're in a disagreement with someone you care about.....try this!!

Think about the wonderful qualities this person normally exhibits, remember the good times and caring actions.  Hold that thought....Feeling those feelings grow stronger....then push those feelings from your heart to their heart.  Feel how good that feels, stay with...

It has come out that we live in an "Electromagnetic" world, and that we are electromagnetic in structure.  Past hurts and wounds have an attachment or hold on us, because of our electromagnetic frequency.

If we really want to "un-snag" ourselves from past hurts and wounds, we have to be willing to consciously let go of the past.

The trapeze artist has to be willing to let go of the past bar, in order to grab the current bar.  As they do, they pick up momentum so they can grab the future bar.

What happens if you don't let go?

The momentum starts slowing down and eventually stops.  Then you're just left hanging!

Experience the fullness of life; forgive yourself and others when there are mistakes or miss-perceptions.  Forgiveness is a powerful ability that is highly under used.  The other person involved doesn't even need to know forgiveness is being activated.  This really is a gift you give to yourself more than a gift for others...even though others...

Sometimes life hurts!

Lessons are here for us to learn and grow from. We need to find our own way in life.  Sometimes we rely on other people's thoughts, discernment, or beliefs, more than we value our own.

There's nothing wrong with listening to others thoughts and beliefs.  But Discernment, that job is ours!

We all came to this planet for a powerful purpose, and it's different for each person.  If we gather other people's opinions and try to "fuse" them into our life, it may make things "confusing" for what WE came to do!

Most of us discover our life's purpose through our personal experiences.  We need these experiences to teach us, and help us to develop.  That's why it's important to experience, explore, and discern what's real for us.  So we can share our authentic self with the world.

These disappointments not only help expand us and our purpose...they are also contributing to the expansion of the world.

Let's Grow Together!

The only difference between the two, are HOW YOU USE THEM!

Things go wrong in all our lives.  However what we might not realize in that moment is that, everything is always happening FOR US....not to us.

The stumbling blocks we come across on our path, is there to help us learn to navigate through the situation.  And as we do, we become stronger and smarter.  Who knows what adventure is ahead of you that those stumbling blocks are preparing your for.

Life Is An Incredible Journey!

Didn't our parents try to teach us this?  I'm sure I'm not the only one whose parents said, “If your friends jumped of a bridge, does that mean you have to?"

It's important for us to think for ourselves.  We are all here for a different part to play in life, so does it make sense for everyone to think the same?  Do the same thing?  Have the same opinion?

NO!  Nothing new would be created if we did!

You are expanding and growing as a person.  You're creating a new tomorrow, for you, your family, and your community.

Enjoy the freedom of learning from your experiences, the good experiences and the bad ones.  For me, I've learned more from the experiences that didn't go as planned. 

Enjoy the freedom of being Perfectly You!